ASK CHIARA: FB Relationship Status
Q: Should I be upset that my boyfriend hasn’t changed his Facebook relationship status from single to in a relationship, even after bringing it up?
First thing’s first: don’t automatically assume he’s trying to come off as available to all his lady Facebook friends. If you do, you risk waging war without it being called for.
The Facebook relationship status has become a vital part of the relationship game. Once a label has been added to your relationship, it’s now expected for you to go online and make it known to the world; if you don’t, you risk hurting your partner’s feelings.
But you’ve got to remember that some people don’t put as much weight on social media as you do. There are people I know who barely even log on to their Facebook accounts. Some people might even avoid changing it because they’re not up for the 30 person discussion that will occur with the update. (‘liking’ isn’t enough these days)… And some people.. simply forget.
If this is something that bothers you, bring it up again. If he tells you he doesn’t want the attention, then tell him he can hide the relationship status from showing; it’ll make you feel better than him screaming he’s single.
In other words, if it means that much to you and so little to him, changing the status shouldn’t be a big deal. And don’t feel embarrassed about it either.. Seeing “Oh! Just realized you had a girlfriend! Didn’t even know about her” can really make you feel like shit. If he continues to hesitate you might want to ask why it’s such a big deal, especially if you’ve been dating for a while and things are pretty secure.
In today’s world, Facebook hiding your relationship can hurt just as much as real life hiding it; let’s face it, there’s a reason Facebook is the #2 most visited website in the world. If it’s something that bothers you, don’t be afraid to speak up. Communication is going to save you a lot of drama and pain.
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