ASK CHIARA: I’m the other man!
Q: I’ve been fooling around with a girl who has a boyfriend for the past year. She’s in a miserable relationship and says she’s planning to leave her boyfriend to be with me – she’s just waiting for the right time (They’ve been together for 6 years). Should I wait?
I received this email after posting Wednesday’s article. The email was much too long to post, full of jibberish, claiming he’d know if he was being led on and he ‘definitely’ wasn’t. Who are you trying to convince, anonymous? Me? Or yourself?
I know you think being in a “miserable relationship” is reason enough for her to dump her boyfriend but if that were the case, she would have already done it. Problem is: there is no right time to end a relationship. You’re supposed to just DO IT. She’s feeding you bullshit, keeping you wrapped tightly around her finger. You provide her with everything her current relationship is missing. And I guarantee you, if she is EVER freed from her “miserable relationship” you’re not going to be the man she runs to. Women are just as much attracted to the unattainable as men are. If you seal your penis off and loyally wait for her on her doormat, she’ll step right over you – if not on you.
So, you asked if you should wait? The answer is obviously, no. Not only does walking away ironically increase the chances of you two being together but it’s the best shot you’ve got at finding someone who actually wants to be with you. Besides,she’s going to be much too screwed up from her miserable 6 year relationship to dive into a new one.. You don’t want to deal with that baggage, do you?