Guest Post: Sex On the First Date?
I think it was Stacey Dash who said that she had sex with each of her husbands on the first date. Considering she has been married four times I don’t know whether to be optimistic or pessimistic about that admission. You see, the dating game has definitely changed. And the availability of sex is one of the biggest changes. Women have taken the choice to have sex into their own hands and instead of letting society dictate when, where, and how they should have sex, more and more of them are having sex when they want, despite certain stigmas that still linger about women who have sex more freely and frequently.
Sex is no longer a numbers game for women, though there are a few women still out there, who aren’t having sex of course, who remain proud of their low partner numbers. And I’m thinking-why? I still hear women harp on the old adage “why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?” when what we should be saying is, “why buy the car without checking out the equipment first?”. We live in a society where we are always trading up, always looking for the next best thing-and the sooner the better. Men are looking for strong, independent women. They have gotten used to a woman who is comfortable enough with herself to have sex whenever she feels right, not when society says she should. Women sitting back waiting and sticking to traditional norms, are getting left behind and are ending up dateless. Am I saying that you should give it up to every man who comes along? -no, unless you want to. What I am saying is to quit over thinking it, having so many rules, and just live.
Sex on the first date is still a touchy topic. I think everyone should experience what its like to have a one night stand… But I am not like most girls either. I get a thrill out of trying the unknown, pushing life to the limits, doing things at the drop of a dime that I may have never dreamed of doing. My goal in life: to be happy everyday and to have no regrets. And so far- I have none. Like Stacey Dash, there have been men that I have had sex with on the first date… And I have a parade of lovesick exes to prove that sex sooner in the dating process does not lessen your chances of snagging the guy, that is unless your sex is really bad, in which case you might wanna hold out until you can get him to fall in love before you ruin it with your stiff and boring sex. But I believe anyone can learn anything, and believe me, sex should be at the top or your list of things to know how to do well. It is the greatest tool that us women have to use with our men and when used properly, can lead you to be very happy in your relationship.
I’m not looking to raise up an army of promiscuous women, just an army of intelligent, sure about themselves, awesome, secure women, not afraid to express themselves in spite of cultural stigmas.
Until next time,
Angela Jordan is the creator of Maneaters Blog , a dating and relationship columnist, and a self proclaimed ManEater on a mission to change the dating game one lovesick woman at a time. Contact her at email@example.com