Reason # 3 He’s Cheating on You… Right Now
Men are cheating bastards. They’re arrogant, good for nothing, sons of bitches. They don’t appreciate what they have, they abuse it and then claim they still deserve to have it. There are many reasons men cheat so I’ve decided to write a series on the top 5. DO NOT start a fight with me until you’ve read all 5.
Reason # 3: The Thrill
Good news: You may have absolutely nothing to do with the fact your man is currently out banging his secretary. We all know there’s something ridiculously exciting about being naughty. The majority of us, however, are able to keep the thrill to our thoughts; fantasizing is enough to feed the hunger. And although we expect our partners to feed the urge for naughtiness within the confines of their fantasies as well, we’re usually wrong.
It’s like the time you stole the kit kat from the corner gas station.
You know you’re doing something wrong, you know you can get caught at any moment without warning, and most importantly, you know you can get off on the fact you’re getting away with it.
So instead of channeling this addiction for adrenaline toward sky diving and cage diving with sharks, your dude is exercising his right to the thrill by cheating on you.
Fix it Before it Happens
Let’s be honest here, I don’t think anyone would be able to give you a heads up about this. How are you supposed to know your your thrill seeker of a man would be one to take it to a stranger’s bed? And are you suddenly supposed to be suspicious if your boyfriend approaches you suggesting you sign up for sky diving classes?
What I can tell you is that you should keep an eye out for sudden drastic changes in behavior – especially ones that don’t include you. (There’s a whole section on spotting a cheater in my book). If he’s a boring accountant who shows up at your door with a new neck tattoo and is suddenly bailing on you to go on tour with Motley Crue, you might want to speak up.
Sudden drastic changes indicate a need for thrill; a need for change. When he gets crazy enough to try to leave his boring account life behind, don’t expect a clear head if he’s approached by an attractive set of breasts. Shit happens.
In addition to just being more aware, consider adding a bit of thrill to your existing relationship – it might be enough to calm his hunger. Spice things up in the bedroom: add new locations, introduce props, and go buy some sexy outfits. Also, start suggesting some thrilling activities the two of you can do together. If he sees you’re in it too, he’s less likely to go rogue.
Remember: The reasons in this series DO NOT justify, they merely explain. Also, there is an entire chapter in my book about dating a cheater. Read it. Stay tuned for the remaining 2 reasons your man is cheating.