Same Sex Lovin’ – I Kissed a Girl and I Liked It!
Two chicks hooking up? Attention whores. Two dudes going at it? Gay. There’s no such thing as liking both sexes and the second you give in to the devil’s temptation and experiment, you’re automatically giving up your straight card – for good. So what do we make of all those slutty little girls at sleepovers? What about our best guy friends coming out of the closet? And how about that weird freak of nature who claims to ignore a person’s gender and go straight for the heart?
Girl on Girl
It’s a bit more socially acceptable, right? You see two chicks hooking up at a party or a bar and if you’re a guy, you’re most likely elbowing your buddies, moaning, “Dude..so hot.” And if you’re a girl, you’re either reverting to the standard, “Ugh, attention whore” comment, or secretly wishing it was you underneath that hot blonde. Whatever your response, seeing two girls hooking up is a lot more common – especially when alcohol is present – than seeing two guys going at it.
Because of the social reaction to two girls getting it on, it’s very likely the two girls ARE doing in to get attention. When a girl is testing the waters, she’s a lot more likely to do so in private with a close friend. There are times, however, that a girl might need the ‘attention’ excuse to make a move; a move that she would otherwise be too shy to make in private.
Some girls even experiment in private with other girlfriends NOT because they’re curious to know whether they’re attracted to other women but because it’s safer than kissing your crush at prom and totally failing because you suck at it.
Boy on Boy
Seeing two guys hooking up is a bit different. You won’t see a group of girls giggling and whispering, “Ugh, SO HOT” to one another while two guys go at it and do body shots on top of a bar. Why? I don’t know why. Girls might even find two girls going at it hot, but for some reason guy on guy action doesn’t elicit the same response, in fact, the response it does evoke is often a negative one. It’s a stupid double standard, and I have no explanation for it.
Does society’s reaction to guy on guy make the act any less experimental? Absolutely not. Apparently, ladies are aloud to fool around and explore one another without being labeled ‘lesbos’, but if two guys try the same thing, they’re automatically labeled gay.
Most guy on guy experimentation is done in private. Some walk away from the whole thing thinking they’d never do it again, while others might be tempted to explore a little deeper.
To some, bisexuality is like Santa Claus; a fictional character used to cover up the truth. For kids, Santa Claus is the lie that covers up their parent’s trail to the christmas tree. For ‘some’ adults, bisexuality is the lie that covers up homosexuality. I don’t blame these people for sticking with simplicity; black and white are easy to comprehend.. but grasping the concept of ‘gray’ requires a whole other level of intelligence.
By the way, you can’t believe in a woman’s bisexuality and deny a man’s. So yeah, men can like both sexes and not be ‘gays in denial’.
(If you can’t tell, I find these people ignorant and annoying..)
That Hippie Shit
There are those, like myself, that believe the concept of attraction is wider than, “What’s up, I like your penis, let’s sword fight.” Everyone has an individual energy and it’s possible to be drawn to that first, before the physical attributes – regardless of gender.
There are those that fall in love with the person and adjust the love making accordingly. Sometimes the person you’ve fallen in love with has a penis, sometimes it has a vagina (and sometimes, it has both).
ChiaraSays: Get Over it
If you’re battling the possibility of being attracted to the same sex, don’t fight it. If you’re in an area that is completely against accepting any form of sexuality other than the standard heterosexual… move. Believe it or not, big cities are a whole different ball game. Try SF, NY or LA. Silence the voice nagging at you while you try to enjoy heterosexual porn. It doesn’t mean you’re gay, and if you turn out to realize it’s what you’ve always wanted.. being gay is okay too. Once you end the war within you and feed into your desires, you’ll realize you’re a lot happier than the person who blindly followed the path to the white picked fence when really, they just wanted to make out with their best same-sex friend.
And for those who judge others for their lifestyle choices, well.. that’s a whole other article.
Life isn’t black and white… ever. It’s never simple, it’s never predictable and it should never, ever be boring. And most importantly, your life belongs to you and to no one else.