Telling You How to Date a Friend of an Ex
Browsing the internet, I came across a pretty interesting 4 minute tutorial on how to Date a Friend of Your Ex. Naturally, I decided to stop and take a look. Not that my exes have any irresistibly, charming, eligible bachelor friends or anything.. I was simply drawn by the topic; what crap are men being told?
A Short Recap
Assuming you don’t have 4 minutes to spare, let me catch you up on the golden nuggets of wisdom dispersed by Adam Lyons. Apparently, “If you go about things correctly, it can actually be an incredibly easy feat.” He gives 3 tips to make your dreams come true:
- Start at the top: Every girl group has a social hierarchy, ranging from super hot top girl to girl you “need a few drinks” for. Never start at the bottom; if you do, top hot girl won’t touch you because you’ve been with someone she considers less hot than herself.
- Set up an open relationship with your girlfriend: Doing so will avoid the risk of hurting feelings and making the relationship seem more serious than it really is.. That way, it’ll be easier to get an ‘in’ with the friend.
- Stay friends with your ex: It’s important that you take good care of your ex because she might not only give her approval but she may actually ‘refer’ you to her girlfriends.
It’s easy, if you follow these steps. According to Lyons, you’d be surprised to know how many girls would break the friend code for a situation like this.
Let me begin by saying, I’ve got a lot of respect for this guy and in no way am I bashing his credibility; I just think he’s grabbing the minds of impressionable young men a little too easily.
He’s absolutely right in saying that female groups have a hierarchy, but that’s about it.
First of all, if you go for an “average” chick in the group, it’s actually more likely to gain the hot girl’s interest, but not in a good way. She’ll feel her ego slashed as you opt for someone “less” attractive. Problem is? Average girl is lower in the hierarchy for a reason, you think she’d move forward without prior higher consent? Besides, starting your way from the top and moving down makes you look like a sleezy bastard. By the time you get to the bottom, you’ll be right where you deserve to be.
Setting up an open relationship sounds a lot easier than it really is. Most relationships aren’t so easy going; when you’re together, you’re together. I think this more accurately applies to a lazy dating situation where neither party is too intrigued.
Staying friends with your ex is important for more than just being able to shag their friends. Implying that doing so will increase your chances of the pussy parade is pretty delusional. Women are territorial creatures. It doesn’t matter if you’re the last guy she’d ever sleep with on earth, you’re still her ex. And most girls that will “approve” will give you shit and start drama down the line, anyway.
The idea of being ‘referred’ to a friend makes me laugh harder than anything else in the video. Unless you were a fuck buddy who can pretzel his ladies and make them cum in under 10 seconds, you’re no one to be ‘referred’. “Hey Maggie, remember my ex, John? You should totally give him a call, he’s a really awesome, sensitive guy and he gives the BEST head!”
All in all, sounds good from the sidelines… But this advice is better given to those who have yet to be with the girl who will become the ex.. who will eventually approve of you screwing her friend. Doesn’t help those who are already behind enemy lines, does it?
Any of this sound a little crazy to you?
I’ll write an article about this soon enough and link back to the video, so I can really let my dragon loose on the subject.
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