When Men Can’t Take a Hint
“When you want something, you gotta get out there and go for it! It’s all about determination, perseverance and fearlessness. Feel that hunger, son! And get out there, boy! A real man don’t come back empty handed! Make me proud!”
Every woman has a father to thank for the existence of her pseudo stalker. Now, while advocacy for ambition is not harmful per se, many miss out on giving Lesson #2 (Picking your Battles) and Lesson #3 (Knowing when to quit). So they send their sons off, making them believe the mark of a man is one that gets everything he wants. Great when he’s starting a new career, not so great when a woman turns him down. So what’s a woman to do with a man who thinks conquering her vagina is his God given right?
In today’s world, a woman doesn’t have to resemble a porn star to be considered attractive. Career, focus, and lifestyle are all factors that contribute to a lady’s desirability. In fact, the number of unattainable women is rising by the minute. Women are no longer focused on the desperate need to reproduce and be Susie Homemakers; they’re evolving into a new career-minded, sexually curious species who thinks independently and puts herself first. Needless to say, the men aren’t taking that all too well.
With the introduction of social networks like Facebook and Twitter, we’ve all become more accessible to the world around us. A woman can choose not to give her number out, only to come home to a message in her inbox titled, “Hey, look who found you!!” And although the choice of pressing delete always exists, we’re haunted by the new ineffectiveness of the word, ‘NO‘.
Although flattering -because let’s face it, it’s nice to know you’re wanted- there’s a sad reality to a guy refusing to accept rejection: it’s not always about you, it’s often about the fact you’re now a challenge. The woman is on one side of the brick wall thinking she’s so irresistible, he’s willing to put his dignity at risk and the man is on the other side thinking there’s no way she’d reject him if she really knew what she was missing out on. He’s convinced he’ll just have to prove it to her.
But there’s a difference between the playful chase we’re all addicted to and a stern, downright, “I’m not fucking interested.”
Getting Him to Take the Hint
If you’ve tried it all and the douchebag is stil trying…
- Be Clear: Giving excuses is a sure way to confuse the simplistic mind of a dedicated, driven man; he’ll actually believe them. If you say you’re not looking for a relationship, he’ll wait. If you say you’re too busy for lunch, he’ll surprise you with a to-go meal from McDonalds. If you say you’re sick, he’ll try to be your doctor. Tell him you’re not interested and save yourself the hassle of creativity.
- End Contact: Social networks are simultaneously a gift and a curse. Although you’re more accessible, you’ve got the power to NOT RESPOND as well as the power to block. If you don’t feed in to his attempts, he’s more likely to move on to his next victim.
- If you can’t end contact: Unfortunately, some of these snakes linger in the workplace and interaction is inevitable. Make sure you’ve taken care of step #1 and then refrain from acknowledging any further attempts. For example, if he asks you about dinner, just walk away. Don’t giggle, don’t flirt, don’t lead him on. JUST DON’T REACT.
And if worse comes to worst, there’s always restraining orders and sexual harassment complaints. But that’s another article…
So what did we learn today? Not only do women have golden vaginas, tempting all the males of the land, but women are also considered territories to conquer.. and men have been instructed, both socially and genetically, to not return empty handed. But at some point, they’re going to have to be taught lessons #2 and #3.. and guess what? Women make great teachers.
[Thanking ManEater for inspiring today's article]